for whatever reason you choose not to use a Unity Candle during your
ceremony, the sand ceremony can be a beautiful and meaningful
addition to your vows. Simply find three containers, one for you and
your fiancι to pour the sand into, two for each of you to pour the
sand from. You can find colored or plain sand at most craft stores.
After the Officiant reads the text below (or any text you choose)
pour the two containers of sand into the third container
simultaneously. You may wish to leave a small amount of sand in each
container to symbolize that although you are now joined as one, you
each remain individuals.
_______ and _______, you have just sealed your relationship by the
giving and receiving of rings and the exchange of a kiss, and this
covenant is a relationship pledge between two people who agree that
they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives.
The most beautiful example of this partnership is the marriage
relationship. You have committed here today to share the rest of
your lives with each other. Today, this relationship is symbolized
through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand one,
representing you, _______ and all that you were, all that you are,
and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you,
_______, and all that you were and all that you are, and all that
you will ever be. As these two containers of sand are poured into
the third container, the individual containers of sand will no
longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these
grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the
individual containers, so will your marriage be.
This is a ceremony we did some summers ago:
“Love is the eternal force of life.
is the force that allows us to face fear and uncertainty with
although you will be sharing one life, never forget you are two
Cherish and affirm your differences.
your commitment primary.
Together you will laugh and cry, be sick and well, be happy and
angry, share and grow.
sometimes together, sometimes separately.”
symbolize the importance of the individuals within the marriage and
the joining of two lives into one entity, three colours of sand will
now be layered into a vase.”
Bride clear jar of pink sand, then Groom a clear jar of blue sand.
The Officiant has one small clear jar filled with a neutral colour
sand and a large empty jar).
begin with a layer of neutral sand which symbolizes that the
marriage is grounded.”
(Officiant pours a little of the neutral sand into the jar)
“Then we layer the individual colours. This symbolizes that the
marriage is based on the strength of the individuals.”
(Groom pours a little of the blue sand in first, followed by a
little more of the neutral sand from the Officiant. Bride then adds
a little pink sand, followed by some additional neutral sand from
now we combine the colours, which symbolizes two lives joined as one
(Groom and Bride simultaneously pour their remaining sand into
the large jar until their jars are empty. The Officiant caps off
the sand with the last of the neutral sand. The Officiant then
holds the large jar up as if presenting to the wedding audience and
places the jar to the side).
Hawaiian Style Ceremony
Hawaiian Style Sand Ceremony adds a Hawaii twist to the traditional
unity candle tradition. Like a unity candle the sand is used to
symbolize the joining of the bride and groom or the joining of their
families. The sand unity ceremony uses two small vials of sand and
small bowl to combine the sand. Each of the two vials of sand
symbolizes the separate lives of the bride and groom and their
families. If the wedding is being held on a beach the sand would be
collected at the time of the ceremony and taken from below the bride
and grooms feet (make sure it is dry though). The combined sand
makes a wonderful wedding keepsake for the bride and groom and a
constant reminder of their Aloha for one another. Craft stores
are the best source for natural and colored sand as well as small
glass bottles. Another good resource for small bottles is Pier 1
Imports or IKEA. Below are a few examples of what the wedding
Officiant can use for the sand unity ceremony:
Non-Denominational Unity Ceremony for Bride & Groom
Today, [Bride's Name] and [Groom's Name], you are making a
commitment of your eternal aloha for one another. As you each hold
your sand the separate containers of sand represent your lives to
this moment; individual and unique. As you now combine your sand
together, your lives also join together as one.
Non-Denominational Unity Ceremony for the Parents to Join Their
[Bride's Name] and [Groom's Name] you come here today from two
different families. From these two families a new family will be
created today. At this time, I would invite the parents of [Bride's
Name] and [Groom's Name] to come forward. These two vials of sand
represent each family. Now the parents will take their sand and
simultaneously pour the sand into the unity bowl symbolizing the
uniting of the two families into one.