We are familiar
with two wedding traditions in which roses are used. In one, the
mothers are given roses as tokens of the bride and groom's love for
family. This is often kept a secret from the family until the roses
are presented. In another, roses are exchanged as the bride and
groom's first gifts to one another as a married couple.
__________, you will remember this day for the rest of your lives.
Those of us who are already married know that marriage, like life,
brings with it many joys and also many challenges. We also know that
love, while beautiful, does not always show its prettiest face.
There are days when we may find it hard to express the depth of our
love for one another. It is my hope and prayer that the two of you
will set aside a special place in your home for roses, ancient
symbols of love. When words fail you, or when the challenges of life
or marriage begin to weigh on you, go out and get a rose, and put it
in that special place in your home, so that the other will be
reminded of this moment, and of the love you feel for one another.
As a token of that love, I would like to ask you to make these roses
your first gifts to one another as a married couple.
A single red rose
always meant "I love you".
Your gift to each
other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings - which
shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and
respect; and a public showing of your commitment to each other.
But for your first
gift as husband and wife I want you now to give each other the gift
of a single rose. So please exchange your first gift as husband and
wife; a gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of
single rose says the words: "I love you".
There may be times
filled with happiness, sorrow, tears or laughter, whatever it may
be, remember love has given you wings; your journey begins today;
______ and ________, if there is anything you remember of this
marriage ceremony, remember the love that brought you here today, it
is only love which can make your marriage a glorious union, and it
is by love that your marriage will endure.
In the Rose
Ceremony, the Bride and Groom give each other a Rose. Two roses are
all that is necessary. The Rose Ceremony is placed at the end of the
ceremony just before being pronounced husband and wife. It goes like
"A single red rose
always means "I love you".
Your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding
rings - which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows
of love and respect; and a public showing of your commitment to each
other. Now for your first gift as husband and wife I want you now to
give each other the rose you hold."
_____________, I would ask that where ever you make your home in the
future - whether it be a large and elegant home - or a small and
graceful one - that you both pick one very special location in your
home for roses; so that on each anniversary of this truly wonderful
occasion of your marriage, you both may take a rose to that special
spot in your home, both as a recommitment to your marriage - and a
recommitment that THIS will be a marriage based upon love."
"And try to
remember this: In every marriage there are times where it is
difficult to find the right words. It might be difficult some time
to say "I am sorry" or "I forgive you"; "I need you" or "I am
hurting". If this should happen, if you simply can not find these
words to express what you really feel, Go to that spot that you both
have selected and there leave a rose. That rose placed in that
special location can say what matters most of all. The rose you
place there will say the words: "I still love you." The other should
accept this rose for the words which can not be found, and remember
the love and hope that you both share today."
________, if there is anything you remember of this marriage
ceremony, remember this, it was love that brought you here today, it
is only love which can make it a glorious union, and it is by love
which your marriage shall endure.
Adding a part for
If a couple is
adding the "Rose Ceremony", often they will have a rose for each of
the children. After exchanging roses, the couple will then give each
child a rose, a hug, and whisper, "I love you." "Not only
are_____________ and________ creating a marriage today, but they
also are forming a family with (child/children's name (s)). Just as
it is appropriate for________ and________ to declare their love for
each other in the gift of a rose, they also wish to show you (to the
children) how much they love you with the gift of a rose."