GROOM/BRIDE: I stand here today, pledging myself, my love, and my possessions to you and also to (names of children).  I commit my self to be a husband/wife to you and a friend to your children.  I respect your devotion to (names of children) and will never do anything to come between you and them or be a source of derisiveness in our home.

  (Spoken to the children):  I want (names of children) to know that I love and respect your mother/father and will always do so.  I hope and desire to be an influence on your lives by listening to you, respecting your uniqueness and individuality, by teaching and suggesting and coaching, and by modeling.  I pledge to you my goal to create a family atmosphere that is healthy and a place where you can grow to your fullest potential.